So I am  getting ready to write this Blog and I am asking myself, “Why bother? No one is reading it.” I am grateful for the one or two people that regularly stop by for a quick peek. But why should I bother. Why Not… Is what keeps popping into my head… Just like the number 22… So you are all one or two of you asking why the number 22. Well here I go again… I was born on Jan 22nd, My oldest son Nicholas was born on December 22nd, and my youngest son Andrew… Bless his soul who is no longer with us was born on April 22nd. Yup that’s right all on the 22nd day. SO WHAT IS UP WITH THAT? I have no idea… Check this out.. Have you ever noticed that a movies big time premier is often on the 22nd day of the month? I dare you to check it out. Let me know what your research finds our for yah!!. Just recently in my life my favorite hockey team Les Canadiens de Montreal, Yeah Baby… eliminated the Tamp Bay Lightning from the Stanley Cup playoffs on April 22nd… Yup that’s right Andrew would have celebrated his 24th birthday on that day… Heavy Heart Moment…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….

So whats with the number 22 in my life and why is it such an eye opening wonderment? So here is what I’ve discovered…

After many wasted hours, I am finding that it’s a what the F#&K moment. But here are some interesting facts about my number 22.

The atomic number of titanium is 22…Yeah Baby!!

There are 22 letters in the Hebrew alphabet…Getting Closer To God

In Jay-Z’s song “22 Two’s”, he rhymes the words: too, to and two, 22 times in the first verse.
Iron Maiden has a song named “22 Acacia Avenue”.
Lily Allen has a song titled “22” from her album It’s Not Me, It’s You.
Paul Weller has a song and album named 22 Dreams. The album contains 22 songs on it, including the song “22 Dreams”.
The Norwegian electronica project Ugress uses 22 as a recurring theme. All four albums features a track with 22 in the title.
Taylor Swift has a song from her fourth album Red titled “22”.

SOMETIMES THE NUMBER 22 SUCKS…

The number 22 in my life has been a number of great pleasure and joy… But it also hits the bottom of my heart and soul on the 22nd of April every year… Life isn’t fair… Life isn’t always going to give YOU what YOU think YOU deserve… But embrace IT…This life is all we got…

Thanks for stopping by… Peace

 

 

O That Smell… Can You Smell That Smell?

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So after a lousy nights sleep because of a noisy tenant in our building I decided to go out for a walk at 4:00am. It was raining a little and I could smell that distinctive after the rain smell. So I  ask myself, ” How and where does that distinct rainy smell come from?”

So most people notice a distinctive smell in the air after it rains. It’s frequently linked with spring, as the smell of fresh cut grass is associated with summer. You’ll find it in a lot of poetry and also on many inspirational lists of things to be happy about. But what causes it?

As it turns out, the smells people associate with rainstorms can be caused by a number of things. One of the more pleasant rain smells, the one we often notice in the woods, is actually caused by bacteria! Actinomycetes, a type of filamentous bacteria, grow in soil when conditions are damp and warm. When the soil dries out, the bacteria produces spores in the soil. The wetness and force of rainfall kick these tiny spores up into the air where the moisture after a rain acts as an aerosol (just like an aerosol air freshener). The moist air easily carries the spores to us so we breathe them in. These spores have a distinctive, earthy smell we often associate with rainfall. The bacteria is extremely common and can be found in areas all over the world, which accounts for the universality of this sweet “after-the-rain” smell. Since the bacteria thrives in moist soil but releases the spores once the soil dries out, the smell is most acute after a rain that follows a dry spell, although you’ll notice it to some degree after most rainstorms.

Another sort of smell is caused by the acidity of rain. Because of chemicals in the atmosphere, rainwater tends to be somewhat acidic, especially in urban environments. When it comes in contact with organic debris or chemicals on the ground, it can cause some particularly aromatic reactions. It breaks apart soil and releases minerals trapped inside, and it reacts with chemicals, such as gasoline, giving them a stronger smell. These reactions generally produce more unpleasant smells than bacteria spores, which is why the after-the-rain smell isn’t always a good one. Like the smell caused by the bacteria spores, the smell of chemical reactions is most noticeable when it rains following a dry spell. This is because once the chemicals on the ground have been diluted by one downpour, they don’t have the same reaction with the rainwater.

Another after-the-rain smell comes from volatile oils that plants and trees release. The oil then collects on surfaces such as rocks. The rain reacts with the oil on the rocks and carries it as a gas through the air. This scent is like the bacteria spores in that most people consider it a pleasant, fresh smell. It has even been bottled and sold for its aromatic qualities!

These are a few common rain smells, but there are also all sorts of other scents after it rains. There is lots of aromatic material that the moisture and impact of rain can stir up, and the moist atmosphere following a downpour is particularly good at carrying these particles through the air. So, when you talk about the after-the-rain smell with a friend, you may mean one thing while your friend is thinking of something else. You’ll both agree, however, that the air has a much stronger aroma to it after a good rain.

So there you go… Peace

Ever Wonder Where That Name Came From?

So today I spent the better part of my day with my beautiful girlfriend Carla. We went and picked up a few boxes of supplies for her job, and then we went shopping at a nearby consignment store and picked up a few things.. So now that Carla has gone home I am sitting here in front of my laptop and wondering again… what to write about? Well here it is…

Now for something completely different..

Ever wonder how your favorite band got their name… Yup that’s right I am going there. So here it is… in alphabetical order…he he he…

A is for AC/DC: Angus Young, the Australian rockers’ pint-sized guitarist, has always dressed as a schoolboy on stage.

Originally, Young’s uniforms were made for him by his sister. On her sewing machine was a sign that said AC/DC, meaning that it could work on alternate and direct electrical current. Young thought that was the perfect name for a macho power-rock band, blissfully unaware that AC/DC is also a slang term for bisexuality. Ha Ha, sorry biker dudes!!!

B is for The Beatles: John Lennon suggested the name to his bandmates in April 1960, while walking along Gambier Terrace, near Liverpool Cathedral. He later claimed to have thought of it as a variation on The Crickets, Buddy Holly’s band, changing the spelling from ‘Beetles’ to ‘Beatles’ so as to create a double meaning with a play on the word ‘beat’. But both Paul and George remember the name deriving from the Marlon Brando film The Wild ones, in which Lee Marvin says to Brando: ‘Johnny, we’ve been looking for you. The beetles have missed you.’ As Paul McCartney later discovered, ‘Beetles’ is slang for motorcycle girls. So work that out!

C is for Creedence Clearwater Revival: originally called The Golliwogs. John Fogerty’s legendary Sixties rock band wisely changed their name to one based on a friend of Fogerty’s called Credence Newball; a TV ad for Olympia beer which boasted of the ‘clear water’ used in its brewing; and ‘revival’ because that was what the band hoped would happen to their fortunes.

D is for Duran Duran: originally formed at the Birmingham club the Rum Runner as a rival to London-based new romantic groups like Spandau Ballet, Duran Duran took their name from the villain in the camp Sixties sci-fi film Barbarella, whose name was Dr Durand Durand. It was no coincidence that Barbarella’s was a rival nearby nightclub.

E is for Electric Light Orchestra: founder Roy Wood and subsequent group leader Jeff Lynne wanted to take the fusion of rock and classical music first pioneered by The Beatles a stage further, integrating traditional instruments like violin and cello into an electric rock band: the name reflects their ambitions

F is for the Faces: a ‘face’ was the term used by Sixties Mods to describe a respected member of their scene.

Rod Stewart and the Faces were formed from the remains of the original Small Faces, so called because they were all Mod ‘faces’ of diminutive stature.

Gis for Green Day: the Californian punk trio whose albums such as American Idiot have sold more than 65million copies around the world are one of many bands whose name is a drug reference.

In this case, to days spent smoking ‘green’ or marijuana.

His for the Human League: founder member Martyn Ware used to play a science fiction war game set in 2415 called Starforce: Alpha Centauri. It featured an empire called The Human League, which Ware suggested as a new name for his group, originally called The Future.

I is for Iron Maiden: an ‘iron maiden’ was an instrument of medieval torture, a metal cabinet into which the victim could be locked, while knives or spikes were driven into his body. It was thus perfect for a heavy metal band, all the more so since the band leader, Steve Harris, is a passionate supporter of West Ham United, known to their fans as the Irons.

 

J is for The Jam: Paul Weller founded his punk/mod band while still a pupil at Sheerwater Secondary School in Woking, Surrey.The name was given to him by his sister, one day at breakfast. She remarked that there was a band called Bread, but not one called Jam. Weller promptly changed that.

K is for The Killers: the Las Vegas-based American rock band took their name from a video by New Order, which features an imaginary band whose name, The Killers, is written on their drum kit.

 

L is for Led Zeppelin: Keith Moon, the drummer with The Who, was briefly interested in forming a band with then-Yardbirds guitarist Jimmy Page. Moon joked it should be called ‘Lead Zeppelin, because it’ll go over like a lead balloon’. When Page formed his own band, he remembered Moon’s quip and changed the spelling to make the pronunciation more obvious and the meaning more obscure.

M is for Manic Street Preachers. The Welsh rockers either take their name from a minor character in Monty Python’s Life of Brian, credited as ‘Manic Street Preacher’, or from a man spotted by singer-guitarist James Dean Bradfield preaching, manically, in the street.

 

N is for Nirvana: the grunge band were named after the Buddhist state of freedom from suffering by band leader Kurt Cobain, precisely because of the contrast with his angry, anguished, pain-racked sound.

‘I wanted a name that was kind of beautiful or nice and pretty instead of a mean, raunchy punk rock name like the angry Samoans,’ he later explained.

O is for Oasis: Noel Gallagher was a roadie for a band called The Inspiral Carpets.One of their tour posters listing a series of venues, including the Oasis Leisure Centre, Swindon, was stuck on the wall of his brother Liam’s room. When he joined a band originally called Rain, Liam suggested they should change their name to Oasis. Noel then joined the band as its leader and songwriter and the hits, and fraternal squabbles, followed.

P is for Pink Floyd: known originally as the Tea Set, the band discovered they had been booked to play a show with another band of the same name. Founder member Syd Barrett instantly combined the names of two of his favourite blues musicians, Pink Anderson and Floyd Council, to create what he originally called The Pink Floyd Sound.

Q is for Queen: the name was dreamt up by Freddie Mercury, despite the initial objections of bandmates Roger Taylor and Brian May, who were nervous of its gay connotations because, in his words: ‘It’s very regal, obviously, and it sounds splendid. It’s a strong name, very universal and immediate.’

R is for Rolling Stones: according to Dave Godin, a boyhood friend of Mick Jagger who claims to have been present when the name was chosen, it came from an EP by blues legend Muddy Waters, which Godin owned.

It featured the track Mannish Boy, on which Waters declares: ‘I’m a rollin’ stone!’ Waters also recorded a song called rolling Stone Blues, which is frequently cited as the source of the name.

S is for The Sex Pistols: taking over a group then known as the Swankers, manager Malcolm McLaren wrote down a list of new names including Kid Gladlove, The Strand, the Damned and QT Jones and the Sex Pistols (inspired by the novelty dance act Disco Tex and His Sex-o-Lettes). The ‘QT Jones’ was dropped. The band’s name also promoted McLaren’s King’s Road fashion boutique SEX.

 

T is for Take That: one of a list of names, including Kick It, provided by the band’s manager Nigel Martin-Smith. Said to have been inspired by a magazine headline that read ‘Madonna: Take That and Party’ which also provided the band’s debut album title: Take That And Party.

U is for U2: the group of friends from Mount Temple Comprehensive School in Dublin performed under a number of names including Feedback and The Hype before settling on U2, which is both the name of a Cold War-era U.S. spy-plane and a pun on the words ‘you too’.

 
V is for Velvet Underground: as befits a band managed by artist Andy Warhol, whose legendary New York studio The Factory was a refuge for misfits of every kind, the Velvet Underground took their name from a book about the hidden sexual sub-culture of early Sixties America.

 
W is for Westlife: originally named Westside because three of the five band members came from the west side of Ireland, they had to change their name due to the existence of a hip-hop group, the Westside Connection.

 
X is for XTC: the Swindon-based new wave group, whose biggest hits were Making Plans For Nigel and Senses Working Overtime, were named when founder Andy Partridge saw a Jimmy Durante film in which the comic exclaimed ‘I’m in ecstasy!’ and converted the word into letters: XTC.

Y is for Yardbirds: in the fine tradition of nice, suburban English boys who want to sound tougher than they are, the group who at various times featured guitar legends Eric Clapton, Jimmy Page and Jeff Beck took their name from a U.S. jailhouse slang term for prisoners in an exercise yard

Z is for ZZ Top: according to Billy Gibbons, the band’s singer-guitarist, the trio were all fans of the blues guitarist BB King and planned to call themselves ZZ King as a play on his name. But one night the boys were parked in a parking lot and gibbons saw a pizza place sign that was missing a few letter instead of Pizza Toppings being in bright lights a few of them were burnt out and the sign read ZZ Top. Hence the bands name.

Thanks for stopping by… Peace

Mid Life Career Change… Am I Ready For It?

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“Woke up got out of bed and dragged a comb across my head.” He He He I’ve always wanted to say that Beatles inspired line somehow. Well I am sitting here on Easter Sunday sipping my coffee and wondering this; “am I ready for a mid life career change?”

One thing that I can tell you is that I have always been passionate about the things that I do.  Even from the beginning of my many careers, I’ve made a pact with myself, that when the day comes that I don’t enjoy what I do, well that will be the day that I’ll do something else. Even if that would be a mid-life career change.

I’ve always been a believer that I, ( I can only speak for myself) must do what I am passionate about, what I love.I’ve always tried to Tap in to what my real life purpose is and pursue it.

How many people do we know that absolutely love what they do? That can’t wait for Monday mornings?

 How many people do you know that ‘hate’ or ‘don’t enjoy’ what they do and can’t stand Mondays?

It would be interesting to survey people from all walks of life and ask them this one question: “what do you love about what you do?” I bet you would discover that most of them would say that didn’t really enjoy the work they did, but that it paid the bills. It enables them to pay the rent/mortgage, kids school fees, car etc.

So I would dare to say that probably most of us feel trapped by the life we’ve created. So we often sacrifice what we really want to do because we feel that we’re doing the right thing for our partners/children/parents, but not for ourselves.

What if we looked at doing the right thing and turned it on its head. What if doing the right thing is to follow your heart, do what’s right for you, live life full-out, and teach your partner/kids and all that you can create anything that you set your mind to, and that you can live life full-out, a life without limits. If you stay trapped doing something that you hate what message are you giving to your children and the rest of the world?

So many of us get handcuffed into a career, or a stay-at-home choice, that we don’t really enjoy, spend 2/3 of our life, from the age of 21 through to 60, approximately 40 years, 40 years doing something we hate; why? When did we decide to settle? When did we give up on the dream life? At 5 years old the sky is the limit; ask a 5 year old what they want to be when they grow up and just listen to what they say. There’s no limits. They’ll say things like they want to be an athlete, an astronaut, a rock star, an actor or a doctor. At what point did we shrink our dream to fit our circumstances?

I guess it comes back to where in life are we settling?

  • Are you settling in your career? In your personal relationships? With your health & well-being? Or with your finances?

Chances are, if you settling in one aspect of your life, you’re more than likely settling in others

  • Ask yourself right now where am I settling in my life?

Get clear on where you’re settling and draw a line under it no matter how big or small it is. And then get clear on what you want to create for yourself in your life. Maybe it’s a new career, or relationship, or making more money or getting fit or losing weight or just having better health.

Whatever it is for you.

The good news is – it’s a decision you make. You can make decisions at any point to change your circumstances.

When you know what you want to create for yourself set a course, step by step and go after it. Engage back in life and live it on your terms.

My advice to myself and maybe to you as well is to not waste another second doing what we hate. Let’s start creating the life we deserve. Go get your mid-life career change and take some action today…

Happy Easter and thanks for stopping by…   Peace

Brain Freeze… What the heck is it?

Okay so I am sitting down having a bowl of Caramel ice cream and I’m wondering… what the heck am I going to write about tonight? It’s raining out, all’s quiet on the western front, and the Hab’s beat the Lightning in OT in tonight’s first playoff game of 2014… Ah life is good…But what to write about… Then suddenly it happens…brain freeze…Ah I hate brain freeze…It’s like sometimes no matter how slowly I eat it I often get a brain freeze. So what the heck…Now I have something to write about… But first it’s time to do some research… Be back in an hour… or so…

Okay after much research here we go…

Most people have experienced the dreaded ice cream headache at some point. You are minding your own business, eating something like an ice cream cone, a milk shake, a Slurpee, a snow cone… Then, suddenly you are hit with the most excruciating headache! Fortunately it only lasts for about 30 seconds.

So where does this headache come from?

While many theories on what exactly causes ice cream headaches or “brain freezes” have existed for some time, it has only been very recently that it was discovered exactly what is going on here.  It turns out, ice cream headaches are a result of a rapid change in the size of blood vessels as a response to an extreme shift in temperature in the roof of the mouth, particularly the back of the roof of the mouth.

Specifically, what is happening here is that when you stick something extremely cold in your mouth and eat it quickly, such as drinking an ice cold beverage or eating ice cream rapidly, it rapidly cools the palate of your mouth.  Why this is significant is that there is a nerve center located just above the back of the roof of your mouth.  This nerve center includes nerve clusters that send signals to the brain about changes in body temperature.  When these nerve clusters are rapidly cooled by what you are consuming, they are over stimulated and send the message to the brain that the body just lost a severe amount of heat.  This ends up resulting in the rapid contraction of blood vessels in your head.

Shortly thereafter, the temperature at the palate of your mouth goes back to normal and the nerve centers signal everything is fine and the blood vessels end up rapidly dilating.  This all can happen in a matter of a few seconds, but the end result of this rapid contraction and dilation of blood vessels is an extreme, sharp pain, often in your temples, forehead, or sometimes even in your face itself.

This ends up creating a very similar pulsing sensation that many people experience when they get true migraine headaches.  Migraine headaches can even be induced by cold temperatures in some people, leading some researches to believe there is a close connection between what is happening during certain types of migraine headaches and what is happening during an ice-cream headache.

Okay I am going to get really deep now and offer you some remedies to stop the brain freeze…

Slow down!!! That’s my solution.

Thanks for stopping by…Peace

Stop Sweating It

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So during my preparation to move into my new place last week, I made a couple of informational interviews over the phone.I decided to send forward an interview to a company that I thought would be a good fit for me. After packing the last of my meager belongings I quietly moved into my new PAD and forgot about the calls and the resume that I sent out.

Well today on my way to my doctors appointment I get a call for an interview tomorrow at 11:15am. I got off the phone and said cool, well her we go. Then it hit me…. you guessed it…. the nerves started to hit me. It’s not like I’ve never been on an interview before. But, now I have to put all of the pieces of the puzzle together that I’ve been learning from the BEST program.

Uh oh… No pressure… right? Well uh no… I am feeling it… a little…

It’s perfectly natural to feel a bit nervous before you go for your interview, but you do not have to stay stressed and ruin your job interview. If you are feeling knots in your stomach, or if your heart and mind are racing and you find yourself being short of breath, that’s sure signs you are nervous. Well, getting rid of these symptoms is not difficult and the first place to start is with your head.

According to experts anxiety comes from the fear of not knowing what is about to happen, it’s the fear of the unknown. Even though you may be fully prepared for your job interview, yet you might find yourself slowly giving over to fear and anxiety. The good news is that this nervousness can be overcome and you can go for your job interview perfectly calm and relaxed. Here are a few tips you can use to calm those nerves before heading out to your job interview.

1. Relax and Be Positive

Positive self talk can really help especially when you are preparing to go for a job interview. Say things like, “I can do it”, “I’m prepared for this interview”, “I’m positive I will ace this interview”. Keep speaking positive and you will begin to feel more confident and less stressed and nervous about the interview. You also need to relax and breathe deeply, this will help calm your nerves and help you get rid of the anxiety. Take about 10 slow, deep breaths and you will find yourself being slowly relaxed. For deep breathing, you will need to take a slow deep breath with your nose till your lungs are full and you cannot take in more air, then breath out slowly through your mouth.

2. Take A Walk And Visualize Success

Begin to see yourself successful, if you don’t believe you will get the job, then you most likely won’t get it. Visualize yourself bagging the job and enjoying the interview. Remember you are not on trial here, it’s a job interview and you have applied for the job because you believed and you know that you are qualified for the job. Take a nice walk in the park or garden and relax. You don’t have to work out a sweat trying to walk, but just relax and enjoy the walk.

3. Be Prepared

Nothing is worse than going for an interview unprepared. Being prepared will help release the tension in your mind and help you relax. Be aware of your strengths and you will be in a better position to get yourself selected for the job. Know your strength and see where you can excel. Being prepared does not only mean for the actual interview but as for the journey to the place of the interview as well. Plan your route in advance and take into account any traffic problems that you could encounter. Get to the place early enough but not too early.

4. Eat Light And Cool Off

Don’t eat a heavy meal before your interview and definitely do not eat foods that leave a pungent smell in your mouth, a fresh salad is a good idea. Carry a bottle of water to help rejuvenate your body. It’s best to avoid coffee as it actually gives you the “jitters”.

5. Chill Out And Be Positive

If you are sweating when you arrive for the interview, quickly go to the wash room and freshen up. Run cold water on your wrists and dab it behind your ears, this will help cool you blood and relax.

Once you are at the interview, relax, be positive and take things as they come. Don’t rush your responses and remain calm even if it seems you are not doing well.

So don’t sweat it. After all, It’s only a job interview…

Thanks for stopping by….. Peace

Looking for a job can be a nerve-wrecking experience, and the actual interview even more so. If you get the job interview jitters, there are some tips and tricks on how stay calm.

Before The Interview

First to the two Ps — plan and prepare. Make sure you have printed out extra copies of your resume, select and try on your clothes, have directions to the company, and confirm your interview time. The less you have to worry about on the day of the interview the less stressed and nervous you will be. Check out the company online—get as much info as you can so you can ask pertinent questions as well as give substantive answers on how you can benefit the company. Practice some the questions you are most likely to be asked. Also prepare a list of questions you’d like to ask.

And skip the coffee. The caffeine will only give you too much of a jolt. “A cup of java will actually make you jittery because of the caffeine. Instead, chew a piece of gum to help make you more alert (just remember to spit it out before your interview),” suggests The Grindstone.

On the day of the interview give yourself plenty of travel time and arrive to the interview early. “When you arrive at the interview site, allow yourself plenty of time to sit in your car, gather your thoughts, breathe, and to center yourself,” Kim Heitzenrater, director of career and leadership development at The University of the South told Forbes Woman. “Remind yourself that this is a conversation to determine fit on both sides.”

– See more at: http://madamenoire.com/272248/in-the-hot-seat-how-to-get-rid-of-the-job-interview-jitters/#sthash.pEvGNexH.dpuf

Looking for a job can be a nerve-wrecking experience, and the actual interview even more so. If you get the job interview jitters, there are some tips and tricks on how stay calm.

Before The Interview

First to the two Ps — plan and prepare. Make sure you have printed out extra copies of your resume, select and try on your clothes, have directions to the company, and confirm your interview time. The less you have to worry about on the day of the interview the less stressed and nervous you will be. Check out the company online—get as much info as you can so you can ask pertinent questions as well as give substantive answers on how you can benefit the company. Practice some the questions you are most likely to be asked. Also prepare a list of questions you’d like to ask.

And skip the coffee. The caffeine will only give you too much of a jolt. “A cup of java will actually make you jittery because of the caffeine. Instead, chew a piece of gum to help make you more alert (just remember to spit it out before your interview),” suggests The Grindstone.

On the day of the interview give yourself plenty of travel time and arrive to the interview early. “When you arrive at the interview site, allow yourself plenty of time to sit in your car, gather your thoughts, breathe, and to center yourself,” Kim Heitzenrater, director of career and leadership development at The University of the South told Forbes Woman. “Remind yourself that this is a conversation to determine fit on both sides.”

During the Interview

Although you are going after a job, there is a fine line between being enthusiastic and overly aggressive. Try to think of the interview as a conversation with a new friend. “Learn what you can about the person interviewing you—and make them into a human being rather than being a rejection machine. You’ll be able to relax more and be yourself when you remember that they need you; they want to learn about you to see if you’re right for the job,” Dr. Tamar Chansky, author of Freeing Yourself from Anxiety suggests to the magazine.

See yourself nailing the interview. “Visualize yourself blowing your interview out of the water and sitting at that desk as the new hire,” writes The Grindstone.

Have a positive and confident attitude. “If you experience shaky hands, then fold them and place them in your lap. If you have a trembling voice or butterflies in your stomach, take several deep, calming breaths. Try to maintain a natural smile,” Ashley Strausser, associate director of the Center for Career and Professional Development at Otterbein University, tells Forbes Woman. Your posture and body language is very important. Sit up, and try to keep your hand gestures to a minimum.

And most of all, don’t be so hard on yourself. You don’t have to be perfect.

– See more at: http://madamenoire.com/272248/in-the-hot-seat-how-to-get-rid-of-the-job-interview-jitters/#sthash.pEvGNexH.dpuf

Looking for a job can be a nerve-wrecking experience, and the actual interview even more so. If you get the job interview jitters, there are some tips and tricks on how stay calm.

Before The Interview

First to the two Ps — plan and prepare. Make sure you have printed out extra copies of your resume, select and try on your clothes, have directions to the company, and confirm your interview time. The less you have to worry about on the day of the interview the less stressed and nervous you will be. Check out the company online—get as much info as you can so you can ask pertinent questions as well as give substantive answers on how you can benefit the company. Practice some the questions you are most likely to be asked. Also prepare a list of questions you’d like to ask.

And skip the coffee. The caffeine will only give you too much of a jolt. “A cup of java will actually make you jittery because of the caffeine. Instead, chew a piece of gum to help make you more alert (just remember to spit it out before your interview),” suggests The Grindstone.

On the day of the interview give yourself plenty of travel time and arrive to the interview early. “When you arrive at the interview site, allow yourself plenty of time to sit in your car, gather your thoughts, breathe, and to center yourself,” Kim Heitzenrater, director of career and leadership development at The University of the South told Forbes Woman. “Remind yourself that this is a conversation to determine fit on both sides.”

During the Interview

Although you are going after a job, there is a fine line between being enthusiastic and overly aggressive. Try to think of the interview as a conversation with a new friend. “Learn what you can about the person interviewing you—and make them into a human being rather than being a rejection machine. You’ll be able to relax more and be yourself when you remember that they need you; they want to learn about you to see if you’re right for the job,” Dr. Tamar Chansky, author of Freeing Yourself from Anxiety suggests to the magazine.

See yourself nailing the interview. “Visualize yourself blowing your interview out of the water and sitting at that desk as the new hire,” writes The Grindstone.

Have a positive and confident attitude. “If you experience shaky hands, then fold them and place them in your lap. If you have a trembling voice or butterflies in your stomach, take several deep, calming breaths. Try to maintain a natural smile,” Ashley Strausser, associate director of the Center for Career and Professional Development at Otterbein University, tells Forbes Woman. Your posture and body language is very important. Sit up, and try to keep your hand gestures to a minimum.

And most of all, don’t be so hard on yourself. You don’t have to be perfect.

– See more at: http://madamenoire.com/272248/in-the-hot-seat-how-to-get-rid-of-the-job-interview-jitters/#sthash.pEvGNexH.dpuf

Graduation Day & Timetables

Well today was graduation day. Plenty of food, good company, lots of laughs, and even some tears were shed as we parted ways as a group today headed towards a brighter future. I will post some pics in a few minutes. But first I am reminded of that dreaded word, timetable. For some people it’s deadlines imposed by work… For some of us it is imposed by not only ourselves, but the world around us…our children, our spouses, our friends and yes even our pets. So I am reminded of this quote by President Vaclav Havel. Some of you might be wondering who the heck is that?

Vaclav Havel was a Czech playwright, essayist, poet, dissident and politician.

He was the ninth and last president of Czechoslovakia (1989–1992) and the first president of the Czech Republic (1993–2003). He wrote more than 20 plays and numerous non-fiction works, translated internationally.

Havel was voted 4th in Prospect magazine’s 2005 global poll of the world’s top 100 intellectuals. At the time of his death he was Chairman of the New York-based Human Rights Foundation. He was the founder of the VIZE 97 Foundation and the principal organizer of the Forum 2000 annual global conference.

Havel was one of the signatories of the Charter 77 manifesto, a founding signatory, together with Joachim Gauck, of the Prague Declaration on European Conscience and Communism (launching the European Day of Remembrance for Victims of Stalinism and Nazism), and a council member of the Victims of Communism Memorial Foundation. Havel received many recognitions, including the United States Presidential Medal of Freedom, the Gandhi Peace Prize, the Philadelphia Liberty Medal, the Order of Canada, the freedom medal of the Four Freedoms Award, the Ambassador of Conscience Award and the Hanno R. Ellenbogen Citizenship Award. The 2012–2013 academic year at the College of Europe was named in his honour.

Here’s the quote:

“The world can not just be explained, it must be grasped and understood as well. It is not enough to impose one’s own words on it, but one must also listen to the polyphony of often contradictory messages the world sends out and try to penetrate their meaning. It is not enough to describe, in scientific terms, the mechanics of things and events; their spirit must be personally perceived and experienced. [One] cannot merely follow the timetable we have set for our influence on the world; we must also honor and respect the infinitely more complex timetable the world has set for itself. That timetable is the sum of the thousands of independent timetables of an infinite number of natural, historical and human actions.”

So what am I trying to say? Well here it goes… Sorry it won’t be as deep as Mr. Havel.

What I am trying to say is that the timetable that world has set out for all of us, can sometimes be a challenge. \we all have the ability and the skills to pass through and turn any situation that crosses our paths around. But, we all must  believe, and we all must be determined to uncover any and all obstacles not only within us, but the ones around us as well the ones that are stopping us from reaching our goals. So keep listening to your inner timetable. Don’t stop doing the work that will turn all of the no’s into a yes. Remember the Stone Cutter..

Oh one more thing… I am moving into my new place this weekend… How much fun is that… NOT! So you might not see another post till Monday. So until then…

Stay focused… Be positive… and eat more CHEESECAKE!!! More on the cake later. Here are some pics from our class party today.

A BIG shout out and thanks to Rita for hosting the party at her house. Thanks Rita…

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Okay I am tired… Going to bed… More pics later… Thanks for stopping by… ….Peace!

 

Find Your Passion and Follow It!!

Well today was another full day of listening and learning and reviewing. I am a little bit tired and the brain is on pause. So I’ve decided that for today I am going to let technology and the world of YouTube make you think about a few things. Enjoy. Just click on the links.

1-Very Inspirational

2 Can’t Get No Job Satisfaction!

3- Something To Motivate You.

4- A Women Inspired Video

5- An Inspirational Kid

Remember These Simple Things:

“Fear Is Nothing But An Obstacle That Stands In The Way of Progress.”

“Finish What You’ve Started.”

Thanks for stopping by…Peace

 

 

Mondays and………….. COMMUNICATION!!!!

Good morning Monday… So tell me why there are so many people out her that hate Monday’s? Is it  because it’s the first day of the work week? Is it maybe because we’ve had a little too much fun over the weekend? Maybe you just hate Mondays because growing up as a child, you heard someone in your immediate family describe the tortures that this special day has on influencing the outcome of their first day of the week. Heck, Brian Geldof wrote a song called, “I Don’t Like Mondays.” Do you know the story behind the song? No. Well here is the story behind the song.

According to Geldof, he wrote the song after reading a telex report at Georgia Stae University’s campus radio station, WRAS, on the shooting spree of 16-year-old Brenda Ann Spencer, who fired at children in a school playground at Grover Cleveland Elementary School in San Diego, California on 29 January 1979, killing two adults and injuring eight children and one police officer. Spencer showed no remorse for her crime and her full explanation for her actions was “I don’t like Mondays. This livens up the day.” The song was first performed less than a month later. Geldof explained how he wrote the song:

“I was doing a radio interview in Atlanta with Fingers and there was a telex machine beside me. I read it as it came out. Not liking Mondays as a reason for doing somebody in is a bit strange. I was thinking about it on the way back to the hotel and I just said ‘Silicon chip inside her head had switched to overload’. I wrote that down. And the journalists interviewing her said, ‘Tell me why?’ It was such a senseless act. It was the perfect senseless act and this was the perfect senseless reason for doing it. So perhaps I wrote the perfect senseless song to illustrate it. It wasn’t an attempt to exploit tragedy.”

Very sad story… So next time you shout out… I HATE MONDAYS!!!! Think about why you do. Is it really that bad? I say get over it. You have to get through Monday to get to Friday. And then there’s Hump Day!!! Oh never mind. More on that later… Make it much later..

Okay so what I really want to talk about is workplace communication. You’re probably saying to yourself workplace what?

The workplace can be a highly stressful environment. Good communication skills are vital in helping you to work effectively, build solid relationships and prevent unnecessary misunderstandings, and navigate day-to-day deadlines. So what constitutes effective communication skills? Here are a few points worth remembering.
Listening
Good listening is integral to communication. Communication is about exchange, and there’s no place like the workplace to illustrate this. While you no doubt want to get your point across, it’s essential to remember that so do others. Listening can help ensure you know what everyone is thinking. When someone is speaking, focus on their face rather than letting your eyes wander, and if appropriate, take notes.
Empathy
The workplace is about teamwork, so in order to work effectively, it’s essential to be open to the opinion of others, and to understand their position on any given issue. It’s about give and take. Putting yourself in someone else’s shoes is often a good way to improve workplace communication skills. Make a point to ask questions.
Patience
If you rush what you say, others may find it difficult to understand you. Similarly, if you’re impatient for others to get to the point, you are more likely to lose focus, and not hear what they are saying. For good communication, it’s important to be methodical. Take points one at a time, both when talking and listening.
Clarity
When you speak to others, whether they are colleagues, clients or your boss, you are wise to be direct. If you dither around the point, or are uncertain with what you are saying, others are less likely to listen to you. You don’t need to be making a speech to suffer nerves at work, particularly when dealing with superiors. Before heading into a meeting, write down exactly what you need to say, and make notes in point form, which you can refer to if needed. This will help ensure you stay focused, and not miss anything important. The same applies if you are giving direction to others on tasks to be carried out. Clarity is vital in ensuring others understand what they are to do.
Positivity
Maintaining a positive attitude at work is not always easy, however anger and bitterness are not only negative emotions, they can contribute to misunderstandings and conflicts at work.
Try to view problems and difficulties as challenges, and look at ways at overcoming them, rather then letting them become a major, ongoing burden.
If you are feeling pressured at work, speak to your manager or another superior to see if there might be ways to help alleviate the problems.
Self-improvement
Confidence and good communication go hand in hand. Many people aren’t naturally gifted speakers. It takes practice to improve both written and verbal communication skills in the workplace.
Effective communication in the workplace is within grasp of anyone. Make a point to practice listening, patience, clarity, positivity and self-improvement, and you’ll be a much better position to work well, and help your workplace run smoothly.

So have yourselves a wonderful communicative day and may this Monday, be a better then great Monday!!

Thanks for stopping by……….Peace

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